well in a way
maybe i am wrong
but girls for short term like notti guys, to have the
excitement
but when comes to marriage, prefers someone stable and
mature?
true or not??
me was voted the most marriageable guy in my uni
class....application starts now
it is true
read this
“...Do Women Date Naughty
Guys but Marry Nice Ones?”
This notion sounds an
awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that
men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense.
Since women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes we
feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning “I must
have him!” feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to
serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland
psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys
series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the deliciousness of
pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who
has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can
crank up your animal impulses, worry-free,”
Being too “nice” sends a signal to the “deep”
part of the mind that tells you “this person isn't desirable and is
lower status”.
I know, this might sound
kind of dark, power-hungry or weird to you, but it's what happens
with us humans.
People don't value what they can have too easily,
whether they admit it or not.
Ultimately, when women are
around “nice guys”, they end up
unconsciously thinking, “This man isn't desirable, I shouldn't date
or pursue this guy”.
(Ok, there can be another
reason, but I won't discuss it here but it has to do with people
who develop the “nice” persona due to what they feel they
personally lack, and thus “nice” people are self-selecting and are
actually and less confident and less
attractive.)
In the nice guys defense - they might actually
have something better to offer a woman in terms of what she SAYS
she wants (love, trust, companionship, passion), but the women
aren't able to see it - or see it as something they
want.
Why?
Women don't develop a
connection to the nice guy and the “connection” is the MAGIC
ingredient for attraction with most women.
Which leads us to the “bad
boy”!
You might not agree with
me, but women DO feel that magical
emotion called ATTRACTION for “bad
boys”.
Of course, I don't believe
that men have to be jerks, or abuse women in order to make them
feel attracted to them.
But women have a deep attraction mechanism that's
triggered by men who behave indifferent, superior, cocky, the list
goes of “bad” behavior. You've seen it.
“Bad boys” often create inviting and intoxicating
forms of drama - often perceived as playfulness, sexuality and
fun.
When I first talk to women
about the bad boy subject, they jump ALL OVER me and completely
disagree.
Then I ask them about some
of the relationships they've had in the past.
And guess
what?
Most women realize in the course of the
conversation that they've dated men they knew fit the “bad boy”
profile.
What makes me laugh is
that the realization makes them argue with me even
more!
So why do women date and continue on with “bad
boys”?
The answer to this question when I ask it to
women is almost UNIVERSAL.
“We had a great
connection”.
Some women call it
“chemistry”.
